An Eventful Weekend

Today didn't start like most days. I slept in until noon. Who does that anymore, the world is so fastpaced who has time to sleep in anymore? Well apparently I do and I guess after the weekend i've had my body, mind, and spirit needed the extra couple of hours.
My weekend was full of tough love, spider bites, allergies, my husband working all weekend, supper, laundry and getting ready for Monday again.
So lets start with the tough love because I already blogged about the spider bite, which by the way is all healed up, unlike my emotions. So "Toughlove" the term usually means to teach your children a lesson and although you still love them with all your heart and soul, it's time they grow up!!!!
When I was a young teenage mother I relied on my parents alot, so much that I never budgeted because why bother they would buy me and my children what ever we needed anyways RIGHT??? well I was WRONG!!!! oh they never let their grandchildren starve don't get me wrong, they just made me buget and gave me a good scare. You see I probably went one day freaking out over how on earth do I provide for myself. They eventually felt bad enough that they rescued me. Notice I wrote "MYSELF" ?? yah because when I was 19 with 2 babies at home I still thought of myself. Boy have I grown up since then. It somehow became more about the children than myself. Now I have almost completely lost myself that I gave up my job, my house, my friends, to move an hour and a half away to support my OLDEST children in their life journeys. WHY you may ask?? because I wasnt ready to let go yet, what if something happened to them and I wasn't there? OMG I hate the thought.
Well things have been going from to great to good to not bad to bad to WORSE.
We had a big blow out with our 21 and soon to be 20 yr old that we moved out of THEIR place and into our own.
Well if you have been keeping up with my blogs you would have notice in the beginning I wrote that we live with our 2 oldest daughters. Well that isn't the case after the weekend.
Now I don't condone disrespecting one's parent. NO NO No thats a No No. But I do take some responsibility here, I did not allow them to move on their own and test the water like my parents did to me right from the start. They didn't ask me to move with them, or move in with them, I just did.
Now we aren't speaking. So I am lonely, hurt by things that were said, upset that the "other" absent parent thought He had to be involved some how, and a tiny bit relieved. How can I possibly be relieved? Because its been stressful and busy and tiresome looking after children that in age are clearly ADULTS!!!! and its time I let go and let them fly on their own.
It's not like I am hours away, I am blocks away, more like 30 blocks away.
As for my husband being at work all weekend, well I needed the emotional support. I do however, still have 2 teenagers and 1 preteen living at gome with me so they have not all flown the nest yet. I guess I always thought they would live at home with me but nope thats not the case, they grow up and move out.
Gnite and Happy Reading

Snow and more snow and laundry

Everyone is finally asleep. I managed to persuade my husband to cook supper while I did the laundry that wasn't done on Sunday.
Earlier I had mentioned I would make time in the evenings to blog. Well here it goes. Tonite will I will reveal a bit more of our family history as well as a couple stories to help get you more familiar.
My husband and I first met 10 years ago. I was a single mother with 6 children and he was a single father of 2. The Toronto Maple Leafs were playing and I wasnt to keen on leaving my TV and he was surprised to be having company on a Hockey Night In Canada evening. We visited for a bit then realized we had nothing in common and I left thinking how rude he was, yet attracively rude. It was a blind date.
Well to make a long story short he called and we talked all night, like 2 old friends who hadn't seen each other in years. We found out we had so much in common.
When our kids first met each other it was not love at first sight. They got along alright as long as neither interfered wth the others life they had come accustomed to.
3 months after meeting we all moved in together. Easier said than done. Now neither of us could go home and take the kids with us. This is when reality set in. We are a blended family and not everyone gets along at all times. Please Comment if you can relate.
Well that was 10 years ago. Our oldest was 12 and our youngest was 2. Now we cant imagine not having met each other nor can we imagine not having gone through the struggles or tough times. We have seen 2 of our children graduate from highschool. We have had our share of pets. We have had our share of teens struggling with addictions and experimenting with drugs and alcohol. I'm not going to lie. It happens. We've had our share of children quiting school and going back to school. Children getting drivers license. Daughters going through heartbreak and ditto for our sons. We've also had our share of struggles with the "other" parents. We've also had our share or the biggest smiles on report card day, passing the road test, learning to ride a bike, jam packed bed because the kids and I are terrified of storms, potty training, starting school, and many many more happy times that you'll read about in the days to come. And family trips and more family trips, Alberta, BC, Vegas and all the stops along the way.
Until tomorrow, Goodnight.